Hi girls
First time poster here i just need some honest advice and need to write out my story and get it off my chest because it's been eating me up all weekend ad the people i talk to can't really see where i'm coming from.
Anyways here we go.
About a year ago my family (me, my mum and sister) moved to a new town because our old one had no job opportunities and pretty much no future. My Mum's friends daughter moved down with us so she could pursue uni.
This girl is the whole package, she's beautiful (not super model beautiful or has guys falling over in the street looking at her) but i think she's goregeous, she has an awesome personality and a great sense of humour. I wasn't head over heals for her to begin with but there was some feeling there and we would do everything together. We would go exploring this great new town together, go bike riding together, partake in sport together watch tv shows together etc etc.
Anyways i met this other girl at work and she in her own right is great but with how some girls play guys i sort of seen just how wonderful the girl i'm living with is and i started developing feelings for her.
I've kept my feelings to myself cause i honestly don't know but i've tested the waters by giving her hugs and nice compliments here and there and with the hugs she'll return them in kind and she hasn't protested the new shown affection as far as i know. Another thing that should be noted is we wrestle A LOT friends and family around us notice and the chemistry has been noted and questions have been asked, which sort of had it going in my head that maybe she may feel the same way.
An offsided comment was made by mother, when i got a new job my mum was saying that i may meet a new women and get laid and according to my mum the girl in question didn't look too happy about it, thats subjective though so i can't really tell what she's thinking.
Anyway the other night we were arguing (playfully) and she called me gay and i said no i like girls like you (I actually meant for it to come out as in i like women like she likes women) but it was perceived the other way. She said ''i'll move more over this side'' and i go ''why's that you find me ugly'' She paused then said ''No you're more like my brother''.
That was about the time my heart dropped. I've separated myself from her for the past two days and i think she knows somethings up. I don't want to be mean about it but when you have feelings that aren't reciprocated what can you really do??
Anyways to the questions at hand
This girl has never had a boyfriend before, ever!
Could this ''i class you as a brother thing'' be a self defense mechanism to stop from being hurt. Do women use that as a defense mechanism to cover up what they may or may not feel.
Or is it pretty concrete that she doesn't feel the same way and thats all i'll ever be to her??
Cliff Notes
-Boy Likes Girl
-Boy and Girl do everything together
-Boy and Girl Wrestle a lot
-Girl Has shown some jealousy to the thought of boy being with other women
-Joke turns serious and girl says she classes boy as a ''Brother''
-Girl Has never been with anyone before
-boy on here asking women if the ''Bro'' Comment may possibly be a defensive mechanism or if it's concrete she doesn't feel the same way and guy should cut all communication and activites with her if he's only good enough to be a friend.