Originally Posted by
Karan
Well everything started going bad after she got laid off. I make good money. But I always thought of future and saving for a bad day. But she wanted to go out all the time spend and do what not. After a while we argued everyday. She would spend money like no tomorrow. And that made me mad. But I was willing to pay for her school fees and I wanted her to go back to school finish and have a better opportunity. But she didn't like this. She wanted to take a minimum wage job with minimum hours and we would fight over this.
Please learn from this. You cannot control other people. If they do not want what you want then it means that you either aquience to what they want or you leave them because it means that you are totally incompatible. (which you two were/are).
Keep getting your own help and when you are more prepared, look for someone who thinks like you do. You only have control over what you do and what you believe in. No one else. Once you accept that, you'll be able to pick someone who is more like yourself instead of picking someone who is completely different and trying to mold them into who you want them to be.
Forgive yourself, forget her and find someone closer to your ideal once you've healed.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion