But in a relationship doesn't one person have to be strong and think of future and happiness of the other person.
No, jeeze. In a relationship each person has to be strong and think of the future and happiness of the other. Both have to do this not just one. If just one is doing it then it's not a relationship its an obsession on the part of the person that's doing everything while getting nothing in return.
There are TWO people in a relationship and if you find yourself being the only one who is loving and giving, then you are in a one sided affair.
People can love unconditionally, selflessly, but NO relationship can be sustained if it's one-sided. Either the one being obsessed over will become over-burndened or the one giving everything will eventually become resentful... then it's only a matter of time before the end.
I suggest you stop trying to buy love. You don't need to be doing what you did for someone who you are not yet committed to in a solid sense such as marriage or longterm live-in RECIPROCAL, functional love.
Last edited by Wakeup; 03-10-13 at 12:11 AM.
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