Good question! If I had the guts to do it,I would have done it instead of asking questions on this forum.
To be honest,I don't want to embarrass myself by asking them "Hey,do you want to have sex with me?"
This would give them a wrong impression that I'm interested in them or I want to have sex with them.This would definitely make things awkward.
Even if I had the guts to ask them,do you think all of them would be very honest with me?
Somehow I have a feeling that experiment would backfire and mess with your friendships.
I'm probably too insensitive when it comes to this.I'm not sure if he's interested in me cos he hasn't asked me out yet.Also,he told me he still hasn't got over his ex-gf.He told me he's lonely and bored.It's very normal for a lonely and bored person (who has nothing better to do at home)to find someone to talk to.He said,"I talk to you cos you're really good at talking".So I can see the reason why he talks to me.
He hasn't got over his ex-gf yet..so how can he be interested in me? Well,I could be wrong.But please tell me what I think is wrong cos I'm very insensitive and inexperienced when it comes to this sort of thing.
"and surely hopes one day there will be something physical between you two"<---he didn't say he wants to have sex with me.Why are you so sure he hopes there will be something physical between us??
I'm sorry for asking so many questions cos I'm hopeless when it comes to relationships and I really want to learn more about this
You have already said it yourself, only because you talk a lot doesn't mean there's actually a connection. I have caught myself thinking that there is something between me and someone else only because we were both lonely and had no one else. Once you get the attention of someone else you think there's more, I think it's perfectly normal which is why it's important not to get your hopes up and see what time has in store for you.
Yes, it can happen, and I know it because it's been happening to me for years.
Try to picture your guy friends' reactions if you were to go up to them in lingerie and try to kiss them. You'll realize that you already know which of them "just want to get in your pants" and which of them (if there are any) are actually your friends.
I can't remember who, but one of our semi-regulars here at LF once talked about her 20 guy friends. After she got engaged, 10 of those dudes drifted away. After she got married, another 9 of the male "friends" abruptly disappeared. The one remaining guy seems to be a genuine friend.
Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from bad decisions.
1) I'm kind of surprised people believe this. Most guys I know have female friends. Some of them have sex and some of them don't. Sometimes having sex interferes with the friendship side of things and sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes they actually become lovers and couples. A lot of times they don't.
2) That's retarded. Those people don't even know what a whore is. People need to open a fukking dictionary before trying to use words that are too complicated for them.
3) Let me guess, he implied or said outright that he was the one exception to the rule who wasn't just trying to get into your pants lmao. But truth be told we really have no way of knowing if your male friends want to have sex with you. Chances are at least some of them do.
4) This is an iffy one. Some would argue that there is a degree of sexual tension or the potential for sexual energy between any two people who connect in any shape or form, including members of the same sex whether or not they think of themselves as gay/bi. That said, I've thought about sleeping with several of my female friends without actually pursuing it and I was perfectly content to remain friends with them.
5) This one is more black and white than the other issues imo. If a guy treats you like that then chances are he's trying to white knight his way into your pants. He can be caring and supportive and blah blah blah without necessarily wanting to fukk you but at the point of buying bracelets and b-day cakes a guy may as well wear a sign saying "I don't know how to attract you so let me see if I can purchase dat pussy with gifts and white knighthood."
edpjrr, as I said, he is using you (I think unintentionally) as an emotional rebound. It means he isn't "into" you, but he likes having you as an emotional "pillow" on which he can count and that makes him feel somehow safe. I think he is attracted to you because, unless he is depressed or socially inept, a guy doesn't spend 7 hours a day talking to a girl he isn't attracted to.
I don't think it would be a good idea for you two to start dating, before he has gotten over his ex. Being a rebound sucks, don't put yourself in that position. I think you should stop talking to him and give him time to heal, otherwise he will always associate you with his ex and with this negative period of his life. If you two are "meant to be" and he actually likes you not just as an emotional tampon, then he'll come back once he's done mourning.