Hello everyone,
My name is Michael. I am 28 years old. I am recently divorced; however I have been dating for about 3 years, since my ex-wife and I spilt. At the beginning of the year, I got back into my Christian fellowship. I had parted ways in the faith for roughly 2.5 years upon the separation of the ex-wife and myself. To give you a little history of my life, post marriage, I will admit that I was a little crazy for the first year or year and a half. I found myself running around in places that are completely out of my scene (nightclubs and bars primarily) needless to say I, "dated" if you will, about 5-7 different women in that time. However, my emotions were in the wrong place at the time, because I was very hurt from my divorce. Over the better part of the last year I have not dated anyone. I decided to just take some time for my professional/educational development and myself. I have been attending a bible study group for about 4-5 months; in this group there is a young woman whom has my interest. She is quite young, 20 to be exact, but up until a few weeks ago she was involved in a short-term relationship (about 3-4 months) and I only considered her as a friend in the fellowship. She is a lovely girl, with great qualities; she is also quite shy (which is different from every woman I have had relationships with). I have been very interested in trying to approach her and have sent her a few (less than 3 or 4) messages indirectly expressing my interest in her. When I say indirectly here is an example: I sent her a picture mail of a rose and wrote a lovely message expressing that I hope she has a good week, with lots of affection, -Mike. Example two, I am quite embarrassed of this, She posted a status update on Facebook with something to the effect of: If you love or have feelings for a person do not hesitate to tell them for you never know how long they will be around." I replied Aww "her name here" I love you, lol. Both of these attempts have been given the silent treatment but no change in the way she treats me when we have bible study. I did feel a bit awkward tonight after bible study, the whole elephant in the room syndrome.
I would like to add a footnote: I am quite sure that many of you may have me pictured as an overweight, socially awkward, nerdy type. I will say this with the utmost humility, that it can be said. I am not that guy. Actually I am quite the opposite, not to toot my own horn. Problem is, I just don't know how to approach this type of woman and frankly I am afraid of rejection. I have typically dated the opposite type of woman. The last time I dated someone of this caliber was when I was 18 and she is now my ex-wife, unfortunately.
Sorry for the long post. I sincerely appreciate any and all responses posted.
Genuinely,
Michael