Advice needed after a breakup.

[allyk1]

Hello

I just registered but i found the forum and thought i'd register and ask for some help.

I'm from Scotland in the UK and i'd been dating my girlfriend who lived in Moscow since November 2009, roughly 3 years now or so. I am now 28 and she is 31, almost 32.

We had a loving relationship, albeit it often argued. These arguments were always settled with sorrys and ecards. It was never anything major.

I tried to see her at least once every 3 months and it was fine until around this time last year when she said she wasn't willing to wait any longer on me, and wanted a proposal, family etc.

At first i was very much against it, purely as i felt i was being blackmailed but mostly afraid.

In June i decided to propose although orchastrated by her. It wasn't a perfect proposal but i done it.

We then met in October and she wanted to be here by January which i agreed to.

In December things became heated and as it turns out, she had lost her job ( i did not know this at this period). We argued and after 1 week i missed her and emailed her. I created a video for her with old pictures of her and i and her favourite songs. She was happy to see it and we tried again. After 3 days another argument happened which i couldn't help, and again i apologised. She accepted but dictated that i did not contact her again until i found a place for us to stay.

I felt this was wrong and i told her this, and she ended our relationship for it.

Since last Saturday (8 days ago) i have been sending SMS, emails and ecards apologising and asking for one more chance, although on almost all occasions she told me it was over, stop contacting her, she wanted to find another relationship.

It hurt me very much (still am) and it has now come to ahead. Yesterday i sent her what was to be my final email, and she responded by telling me to take it easy and not exhaust myself. Follow up emails sent, she then sends

"We don't know the price of water until the well is dry. The cow does not appreciate her tail until it is gone. We don't appreciate the fire until we are outside"

I sent her the reply saying i agreed with those words in relation to her and i, and that i had learned from the whole experience.

This morning she emailed a reply to wish me a happy christmas. She admitted that she was in as much pain as me, she missed alot and that she wasn't sure if what she was doing was the correct decision.

I tried to convince her to at least let me try again but she continued to say no. My now final email to her was me asking if she loved me, and she responded with;

"I do love you but i am unhappy in this relationship".

All of the emails i sent since yesterday/today had been read more than 3 times by her through my email providers read notification feature, but i am lost on what to do and how she is thinking.

Does she just need time? Does she want me to keep showing my love albeit with messages of don't?

It is hurting me alot at such a positive time of year, i don't know what to do.

Hope i can get some help.

thanks alot

-Ally

[Fruitsss]

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[smackie9]

It ended for a reason...it just wasn't meant to be.