A few weeks ago, I started dating an older man (we are in our late 20s and 30s), who is gorgeous, intellectual, and quite a gentleman for this day and age. We had an amazing first date, with tons of chemistry. We bonded so well that the date lasted all day, hours longer than we originally expected. We had lots in common and he was very vocal about it. In fact, he shared so much of his life philosophies and opened up so much that I was surprised. Afterwards, he initiated all the texts and follow up dates. I never initiated first. He had great pacing, not too smothering or desperate. On the second and third dates, however, he was a lot more reserved than our first date. He still spoke a lot, but not with the same enthusiasm as the first date. He seemed much more cautious.
Then, on our third date, it ended with some disagreement over a life philosophy matter and I was slightly defensive, though I tried to be polite. After this, I haven't heard from him in a week. I thought he was ghosting me so I was just going to move on, but then something came up in my life that made me reflect on my last convo with this man and I realized I was being too defensive. So I sent him a text regarding the subject matter of our last issue, casually and politely without mentioning anything about his silence or anything. And it was a statement and not a question, that involved me showing appreciation for sharing his perspective.
To my surprise, he immediately texted back within seconds and asked questions about my opinions on this matter. He also referred to something else in my life that he remembered from our conversations. So far, there hasn't been an extended convo after this topic discussion.
I'm not intending to initiate another date with him, unless he pursues me first.
I don't want to be a repulsive clinger. If he's not interested, I'll respect his feelings and back off.
But I am curious about what his behavior means.
Did his week of "ghoster" silence really mean he wasn't interested? If so, why did he reply so quickly?
To the men, does it bother you if a woman disagrees with your perspectives on life or is very assertive about her values? Can that be a turning off factor?