spice things up

[Templestone]

Hi ladies,
can you help me out here...
i'm 28 my GF is 32
we've been together for 8 years...

I have a high sex drive i guess,
actually she use to want it all night long when we first met. now barely 3x a month.

i push the idea for maybe sexy lingerie, sex toys, costume to rolepay..
all with a failure rate. she now has a stock pile of toys and lingerie that never gets used.

how do i get her to step it up ?
it feels like she knows i'm not going anywhere else so she's settle in and doesnt' have to do anything sexy anymore
no flirting no kissing.. it feels like i would be in a relationship with a would be sister....... she's okay with this
i am not and i'm getting frustrated.

I find myself thinking about braking it off and finding a woman thats has a sex drive closer to mine . that loves to dress up .
flirt, spice things up....

is there anything you think i could try to turn my current gf around? or is this just normal and i should just give up, not just on her but on my idea that are women out that that want intimacy as much as i do.

[girl68]

i push the idea for maybe sexy lingerie, sex toys, costume to rolepay..
all with a failure rate. she now has a stock pile of toys and lingerie that never gets used.

no flirting no kissingi am not and i'm getting frustrated.

Are you trying to turn a man on? Pushing for all things SEX often won't make her and most woman feel desired/ loved/ adored and wanted (sexually and not). It's hihgly likely you just turned her off by pushing sex on her like a gal would do to a man.

If she's like a large majority of women she wants kissing, flirting, compliment, clean kitchen, dates, and affection for her to feel like she's loved which will most likely bring back all those lusty feelings (ie early relationship sex).

IMO you have your shit completely backwards.

WOO her to get her to WOW you in bed. All you done is: I'm horny here's a toy can we play with it.

[Sonrisa]

Maybe she is not attracted to you anylonger