First, throughout my life I have had similar experiences but never this drastic.
I'm not antisocial--i.e. I have nothing against society, nor am I capable of anything negative toward society. I'm not narcissistic--I don't view others as objects, also I am always very respectful towards others.
However at every point of my life, I have made decisions based solely on what I felt was right for me. Don't get the wrong impression, for example in choosing the college I based my decision solely on what I wanted out of a college experience--strong liberal arts program, cosmopolitan environment, commitment to community...etc. I did not look at rankings, nor asked my parents, nor cared what friends or teachers felt about my decision. In choosing my major, I looked at what interested me and what I enjoyed. I did not look to gain financial success, or status, or anything else.
So far, for the most part, my decisions have all been good.
I have a horrible habit of not keeping in touch with people. Basically, if you are not immediately present in my life I will not make the effort to include you in my life. Now here is where things get odd. As class reunions began occurring, I noticed a lot of my former class mates at later stages in their life imitated decisions I had made in earlier points in my life. I sensed an undercurrent of hostility, as for many imitating my decisions did not lead them to where they wanted to go; that is understandable, a decision good for me may not be good for you.
In particular, there are two women who not only have modeled their life after my own in the past but continue to with much frustration.
This may sound counter to what I have written before but I am being thoroughly honest, a big factor in determining my choices is whether I will be better able to help others. I truly enjoy helping others and regularly volunteer. I hope to one day be a foster parent and a Big Brother. A big part of my happiness comes from three sources: learning, music, and helping others. However, I do all of the above with a practical approach of taking care of myself first so as to be better able to take care of others.
The first girl in my opinion is in denial about what she wants out of life. She does a lot of, "self-sacrifice," in helping others which in the end puts her in a worse off position. She will enroll in expensive programs geared towards helping others, only to come out of it massively in debt and knowing nothing more than when she began the program. The reason I think she is in denial, is just from knowing her she has a very natural business oriented mind. She would fit best in a business environment or in creating her own business. However for some reason, she does not want to acknowledge that reality.
Again, I am not "holier than though are," in how I go about living my life. My best friend also pursues his passion, his passion is very clear: he loves making money and the structure and status of the corporate world. We are best friends, which would seem strange given are complete different goals in life, but we can relate because we both pursue our own passions without reservation or justification
The second girl is just really, really creepy. I worked in the east coast for a bit, before moving elsewhere. I have always felt uncomfortable around this girl for some reason. At one point I entertained the thought of becoming a professor, but I backed away from that thought once I really got to know many professors and found many were very odd. Without being a professor, I'm not certain if the many who I met would even be remotely employable. So, I decided not to waste my time on the degree to end up with bad company.
I just found out yesterday, the second girl not only did earn a doctorates recently but for gosh knows how many years she earned her doctorates in a school in an adjacent city from mine--tens of thousands of miles away from the east coast. I feel she literally followed me. For all I know, she may have known where I lived, she may have been around my house...etc. Were she still in my area, I would really look into possible legal options. However, thankfully, she is working back in the east coast again.
So what the helk is going on with these two girls? What the helk is going on with people who cannot decide what is best for themselves?
Thanks for the comments.