Can't get her out of my head

[ben123newton]

So there is a girl at work who's been with the company for a couple of years and I've liked her pretty much from when she's started. The problem is that my department and her department know this and its been used to wind both of us up. For instance the first Christmas she was at the company her department did a Secret Santa and someone bought her a mug with my photo of my face on it. Although she did start using it!

The winding up did stop eventually but the other issue I face is that her department are very gossipy and have painted a picture of me that I'm someone who is dull and boring, which couldn't be further from the truth. A friend of mine did tell he that I liked her and she said that she wasn't interested. But a year is a long time and she's been in a relationship since but it ended a few months back.

She's now gone away on holiday for 2 weeks and since she's left I can't stop thinking about her and it gives me butterflies. I really want to get to know this girl, to be able to take her on spontaneous weekend trips away, to visit places neither of us have been to, to go to events none of us have done before. But at the same time I don't know how to approach it, or if I will get rejected. I know that she is a really confident girl and that there is a 5 year age difference between us. What should I do?

[melancholia]

Try asking her out when she comes back from her trip, see what she says and go from there.

[AvaMarie]

I think you should ask her out to lunch or something casual when she gets back. It's worth a shot. But one thing at a time before weekend trips

[konfuzed]

dating a co-worker is a good way to be un-employed.

[Dream_of_Waves]

This might surprise you but a 5 year age gap is absolutely nothing, past the age of 20 anyway. It's actually a good thing and it's equally as good both ways, it doesn't matter who is the older one.

If she's single drop hints that you really like her so she at least knows, and then ask her out on a date or ask her to spend time with you in a way that it at least looks like you are interested in dating her. The first sleep is to get her to realise that you're interested, otherwise she'll probably think you don't.

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the first step sorry. Not sleep