Hi. I'm new to the forum and very confused! For two years, I have been dating my boyfriend who became my fiance (accent marks elude me) a year ago. He is 52, has some mental problems, divorced and seems to have trouble letting women from his past go. After our engagement, he continued to regularly interact (on phone and email, at least) with his ex-girlfriend who dumped him in 2006 and sends his ex-wife, whom he had a terrible marriage with and finally ended a 6-year separation with in 2006, an e-mail on what would have been their 20th anniversary in remembrance of the date, all the while telling me I'm the only woman for him. SO the engagement was off, and on. Now, I am really a smart lady--although it doesn't sound like it. Just emotionally damaged (lost both parents to cancer a few years ago and have been quite lonely). But I wanted this to work, and believed it could. So he moved in in May. Since then, he has stopped communication with the ex girlfriend but has also backed off on the idea of getting SERIOUSLY re-engaged. He says I talk too much about the relationship and he feels pressured and why can't we just enjoy each other and the "good life" we have now. Then he said if I need an answer now, looking straight into my eyes, the answer is "No, I will not marry you." I'm hurt, can't concentrate and ruminating like crazy. Any advice for me?
Thank you very much.