Just looking for unbiased opinions

[goodolboy]

Hi there, so me and my girlfriend broke up just a few days ago. We lived together and never had any problems or fights, we had very good communication with each other and when something one of us didn't agree with came up we were able to talk about it openly. So the breakup was seemingly out of no where and I was completely blindsided by it (her fsmile was also blindsided and wantEd to helplay get usome back together). She went away for a family wedding and while she was gone we talked everyday, she would tell me she loved me and missed me everyday and nothing was out of the norm. The day after she got home, I could feel some tension or that something was just not right (you know that gut instinct), we were walking to class together (we are in the same program in college) and I asked if everything was ok because of the tension I could feel, and she said she was just working things out in her head. So after class I asked her about what was going on and if we were on the brink of breaking up, the answer became clear right away. So when we got home I tried talking to her to figure out what happened and what was going on and basically all I got was the "it's not you its me" stuff. So it was done, she packed up and left. The day after that we had class together and she was barely holding together and when I gave her the last of her things after I asked her if this is what she really wants and that this is actually happening, she couldn't look at me and was in tears and it killed me to see her like that. Fast forward to today, she found out I hurt my back, texted me to see if I was ok (which I is really the only part that made sense to me). Next thing I know she is offering to bring me food since I'm laid up and that if I need anything to call her, I thanked her for that but told her it's ok I'm good and I'll be fine. She responded with I know but I can't just let you suffer in pain. So she ended up bring me food and asking me what else I need ect.. What I don't understand is why right after she breaks up with me she would go out of her way to help me and do things for me. It confuses me

[idorea]

The lady in question wants you.. she is not over you.. the things that led to the brekup are probably over and she is way too shy to discuss a return to you.. try to talk things out with her and find out if she wants to stage a comeback.. it should help..

[Date2Relate]

I don't mean to be say the wrong thing here, but did she meet someone else at this wedding? I'm sensing a certain element of guilt in her actions.

[melancholia]

I don't mean to be say the wrong thing here, but did she meet someone else at this wedding? I'm sensing a certain element of guilt in her actions.

I agree with Date2Relate's post for sure. Something seems amiss here, unless you've left out further details of her explanation of why she wanted to break up. Did she offer any reason, other than "it's not you, it's me", which is so cliche and sounds like a total cop-out line. Breakups do not happen out of nowhere. There are always signs leading up to it. Maybe your relationship wasn't as great as you thought it was, for her at least. Or maybe she is feeling guilty for something and that's what prompted her to break up with you, and then continued to feel guilty, so that's why she's been helping you out while you're injured. Have you discussed the break up with her at all since you've posted on here?